Open Question: Do women not find guys sexy, who want love/relationship/commitment more than sex?

[feedcrawler]

I'm 36 and never had a girlfriend and a virgin. I'm a virgin mainly because I have a tickling fetish and would rather tickle a woman's feet than have sex with her. But I also have a desire to have a girlfriend, be able to say I have a girlfriend, be seen with her hanging all over me in public, etc. I want a woman to treat me like I'm attractive, sexy, important, I want my whole world to revolve around her and hers around me. I'm a very mushy lovey-dovey type of guy. And I care much more about a woman being in love with me (making me feel attractive, lovable) than having sex with her. Also at 36 I've never tried drugs, alc0hol or even cigarettes. I was told when I was little that they are bad for you, so that was good enough for me and I never felt the need to question. My first concern is being comfortable, and safe. I've told females in my life that I had romantic feelings for them, sometimes without even having gone out on a date (I knew one through work, one was a stripper at a club where I went to pay to tickle girls feet). I liked her personality and I could see myself enjoying being around her and her entertaining me. I get the "but you don't even know me, we haven't been out on a date" argument, and "I only like you as a friend", which makes me feel unattractive and I cry for several days usually. "We need to get to know each other first". What's to know? I like her personality and I could see being entertained by her personality, spunkiness, etc. And if it didn't work out, we break up, no big deal. But then at least I could say I had a relationship, and I wouldn't feel so unattractive. I'm about average looking, I'm about 60lbs overweight, and don't have any money. But I have lots of love and affection to offer. Men are more visually stimulated than women so how I look shouldn't matter to her. I'm visually stimulated more so it's more important that she look good for me but she doesn't need me to look good. Do women not like guys who want love more than sex? Why do I always get told "I only like you as a friend" when I tell them I have romantic feelings for them?

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