Open Question: Is fetish addiction a good reason to dump your boyfriend? Please help me!?

[feedcrawler]

I always knew he had a foot fetish and he was into the fetish scene. Still, I considered it as a hobby. However lately, our sex life has been rubbish and he couldn't even get to kiss me anymore. On Saturday I told him I wanted to break up, he started crying like a baby and I decided to work on our relationship.However this morning I accidentally found out what nickname he uses for his internet forums. I googled it (I feel sorry for this, but I wanted to understand what the hell was going on) and I found out that he hasn't a simple fetish. He is OBSESSED. He visits all these fetish and trample forums and he even has a secret Myspace page where he posts pictures of him being walked on by women in the street (who are probably told that he has to do it as a dare/whatever). He also used to go to all these club nights and was a regular on the scene.I don't know if he has been doing it behind my back since we started dating. However, I know that he went clubbing (alone) when he was with his previous girlfriend.I don't know what to do. I am totally crushed. One part of me sees the nice guy, whom I have always relied on, happy to indulge his fetish. The other one is scared - who the hell is this person?What do you think I should do? I can't tell him I've been browsing through his Internet messages- it'd feel really bad. Plus, we just decided to work on our story- but right now I'm completely disgusted by what I saw!

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