Open Question: Boyfriend of over two years will not have sex with me?

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(I apologize in advance for any strange punctuation such as " in conjunctions and what have you: my shift key is screwed more than I am)Allow me to elaborate a tad further (damn my inability to use a period >)My boyfriend|fiance and I have been together for approximately two and a half years now: we will be hitting three years this coming OctoberI live in Buffalo and he lives in Hamilton right across the border into Canada: I moved to Buffalo so I could get as close to him as I could beI thought we were in love and so I came to see him regularlyAt first all was well and good and the sex was nice but it was not exactly often that it occurred and so I would find myself dressing up in ridiculously scanty outfits to "persuade" him: he lived in an apartment his mother owned back then with his brother (and a stream of pot smoking drug dealing friends who came over every single damn day) his loud rambunctious butch sister (and a stream of her girlfriends and their screaming arguments) and his mother (who lived next door with the guy she screws and calls her boyfriend)He then moved into his own place last October and has since been unable to find a job due to such a horrible economyIt seems like no matter what he tries he cannot find oneHe has grown very indifferent it seems towards our relationship even though I have supported him emotionally and financially throughout the time we have been together providing to him whatever I could to help him get on his feetLately he has been doing nothing but skateboarding (which is the hobby he loves) He leaves around whenever he wakes up really and stays out until near midnight then collapsing onto the bed in complete exhaustionIt does not help that recently his mother and sister moved in upstairs in his building and they traipse through his apartment asking him to do this and that for themWe have been fighting a lot recently mostly because throughout all this he has refused to even try to be intimate or frisky or anything remotely sexual with me at allI am a heavier woman and he likes it that way: he has a fetish for chubby BBWs as he calls it but again I only see sex maybe once a month or every two months if I am luckyCourse he told me about a month ago right to my face that I had "met his weight limits"My heart audibly brokeI have never felt so insecure unwanted and unlovedHe completely resists any advances or come ons I make and he does not even try to make them himself if everThere is very little affectionate contact between us and I am slowly losing my mind (and disgusting myself with how much I am not eating and thinking about having an affair)Please help meWhat can I honestly do?((Please no stupid flaming or fat jokes: I"ve heard them all before and I am NOT impressed by them))For anyone wondering I am twenty three (twenty four in sept) and he is twenty two years of ageHe has told me to my face that he still finds me physically and sexually attractiveHe still loves me and is IN love with me so those "he does not like you" or "he does not find you attractive" comments are not exactly the problem sorry

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